Gentle Reminders

I think that it is so important to make sure that your husband feels needed and engaged when you are bringing another one of God’s children into the world. When there is engagement and connection in a marriage, then the home and family that the baby will enter will be so much stronger that if that connection between the parents was gone. I think there are quite a lot of little things that we can do to keep our husbands fully engaged before, during and after delivery of a child.

First, schedule doctor appointments around both your schedule and your husbands so that way he can come and be updated just as you are.

Second, let your husband be the first one to know when the baby does something for the first time, like kicking in the stomach.

Third, both of you can read child raising books together and then discuss how you want to go about certain things and how you want to raise your child, that way you are both contributing and are both on the same page.

Fourth, let your husband spend time with just him and the baby, even if it only includes him giving the baby a bath or changing the baby’s diaper, or even napping.

And lastly, I think it can be really engaging to talk about a budget together, decide early on how to budget now that you are bringing another person into the family. This way future arguments on this subject can be avoided.